HOW ONE PERCEIVE HIMSELF, HOW HE TALK ABOUT HIMSELF, AND HOW HE PRESENT HIMSELF EVENTUALLY BECOME THE REALITY FOR HIM!

If you will carry yourself in a way that shows men that you are worth fighting for, because you are an intelligent woman, whose beauty lies on the inside, more than it does on the outside, the wait might be longer, but the results will be much better. Having said that, it does help for you to look after the outside, too. People don't want to look inside a house if it needs a paint and the garden is in a mess. My point is, whatever a man sees on the outside, needs to be a reflection of who you are on the inside.
A big part of who you become in life has to do with who you choose to surround yourself with. Sometimes luck controls who walks into your life, but you decide who you let stay, who you pursue, and who you let walk back out. Ultimately, you should surround yourself with people who make you a better person and let go of those who don’t. It’s obvious, but any relationship without regular interaction and communication is going to have problems, especially when there's a lack of commitment. Don't waste your time with someone who only wants you around when it’s convenient for them. You shouldn't have to force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they truly care about you they will gladly create space for you. Being in a relationship with someone who overlooks your worth isn't loyalty, it’s stupidity.

Never beg someone for attention. Know your self-worth, and move on if you must. Some people will refuse to accept that you are no longer who you used to be, that you have made mistakes in the past, learned from them, and moved past them. They may not be able to stand the fact that you’re growing and moving on with your life, and so they will try to drag your past to catch up with you. Do not help them by acknowledging their negative behavior keep moving forward. Holding on to the unchangeable past is a waste of energy and serves no purpose in creating a better days ahead. If someone continuously judges you by your past and holds it against you, you might have to repair your future by leaving them behind. 

Healthy relationships keep the doors and windows wide open. Plenty of air is flowing and no one feels trapped. Relationships thrive in this kind of unrestricted environment. You can come and go as you please, but you choose to stay because where you are is where you want to be. If you want to be a part of someone’s life, all the open doors and windows in the world won’t make you leave. If someone has closed them all in an effort to trap you into something you don’t want to be a part of, it’s time to find the strength to kick down the door. 

If you allow others to define your dreams and abilities, then you enable them to hold you back. What you’re capable of achieving is not a function of what other people think is possible for you. What you’re capable of achieving depends on what you choose to do with your time and energy. People will throw all sorts of assumptions your way about what is possible and what is impossible. Look beyond the presumptions and mental limitations of others, and connect with your own best vision of how your life can be. Life is an open-ended journey, and what you achieve comes from what you expect to achieve and what you work to achieve. So don’t worry about what everyone else thinks. 

Keep living your truth. The only people that will get mad at you for doing so are those who want you to live a lie. Love is a verb, not a noun. It is active in all relationships. Love is not just feelings of passion and romance between lovers, it is also a behavior among friends and family. If someone lies to you, they are unloving disrespecting you and your relationship. When you keep someone in your life who is a chronic liar, and you keep giving them new chances to be trusted, you have a lot in common with this person, you’re both lying and being unloving to you. Bottom line, those who avoid the truth and tell you only what you want to hear do so for their own benefit, not yours. Don’t put up with it. Cause is your life live it, to the fullest.!