
If
you will carry yourself in a way that shows men that you are worth
fighting for, because you are an intelligent woman, whose beauty lies on
the inside, more than it does on the outside, the wait might be longer,
but the results will be much better. Having said that, it does help for
you to look after the outside, too. People don't want to look inside a
house if it needs a paint and the garden is in a mess. My point is, whatever a man sees on the outside, needs to be a reflection of who you are on the inside.
A big part of who you become in life has to do with who you choose to
surround yourself with. Sometimes luck controls who walks into your
life, but you decide who you let stay, who you pursue, and who you let
walk back out. Ultimately, you should surround yourself with people who
make you a better person and let go of those who don’t. It’s obvious,
but any relationship without regular interaction and communication is
going to have problems, especially when there's a lack of commitment. Don't waste your time with someone who only wants you around when it’s
convenient for them. You shouldn't have to force someone to make a space
in their life for you, because if they truly care about you they will
gladly create space for you. Being in a relationship with someone who
overlooks your worth isn't loyalty, it’s stupidity.
Never beg
someone for attention. Know your self-worth, and move on if you must.
Some people will refuse to accept that you are no longer who you used to
be, that you have made mistakes in the past, learned from them, and
moved past them. They may not be able to stand the fact that you’re
growing and moving on with your life, and so they will try to drag your
past to catch up with you. Do not help them by acknowledging their
negative behavior keep moving forward. Holding on to the unchangeable
past is a waste of energy and serves no purpose in creating a better
days ahead. If someone continuously judges you by your past and holds
it against you, you might have to repair your future by leaving them
behind.
Healthy relationships keep the doors and windows wide open.
Plenty of air is flowing and no one feels trapped. Relationships
thrive in this kind of unrestricted environment. You can come and go as
you please, but you choose to stay because where you are is where you
want to be. If you want to be a part of someone’s life, all the open
doors and windows in the world won’t make you leave. If someone has
closed them all in an effort to trap you into something you don’t want
to be a part of, it’s time to find the strength to kick down the door.
If you allow others to define your dreams and abilities, then you
enable them to hold you back. What you’re capable of achieving is not a
function of what other people think is possible for you. What you’re
capable of achieving depends on what you choose to do with your time and
energy. People will throw all sorts of assumptions your way about what
is possible and what is impossible. Look beyond the presumptions
and mental limitations of others, and connect with your own best vision
of how your life can be. Life is an open-ended journey, and what you
achieve comes from what you expect to achieve and what you work to
achieve. So don’t worry about what everyone else thinks.
Keep living
your truth. The only people that will get mad at you for doing so are
those who want you to live a lie. Love is a verb, not a noun. It is
active in all relationships. Love is not just feelings of passion and
romance between lovers, it is also a behavior among friends and family.
If someone lies to you, they are unloving disrespecting you and your
relationship. When you keep someone in your life who is a chronic liar,
and you keep giving them new chances to be trusted, you have a lot in
common with this person, you’re both lying and being unloving to you. Bottom line, those who avoid the truth and tell you only what you want
to hear do so for their own benefit, not yours. Don’t put up with it.
Cause is your life live it, to the fullest.!